Get mad, then get over it. - Colin Powell

So, tell me if I'm being ridiculous. There has been a family even planned in New York, since December... And Thomas and I are due to go to my parents in SC, and ride with them to New York, cause my car can't do it. Well, then there was talk of Tom and I riding with my aunt, Caroline. Which Tom liked more, because his track record with her is better. Well, THAT got fucked up, and we're back to riding with mom and dad, LIKE ORIGINALLY PLANNED! And now, he's refusing to go, because he doesn't want to be in a car with my parents for 12 hours. But that's what it was suppose to be in the first place. So what's the big deal?

I feel like he's mad cause he didn't get his way now. And since it won't be how he wants it, he won't go. I offered for him to go with my aunt, and I'll ride with my parents... But he doesn't want to be separated from me. And, I can't come up with anymore ideas. He has this whole reasoning, as to why he won't go, so he's justified it in his own head, I still think it's dumb. So, now he's just plain not going. But he hasn't told my parents that, and I don't feel it's my responsibility, plus, I don't wanna be bitched at BECAUSE he doesn't want to go. Because they wasted $160 to board the animals, which if he's not going, he could stay at their house to watch. The fact that it's extremely rude, since we've already RSVPed. And, they just paid for a full suit for him.

I'm really, really upset about it. Not just because I feel he's being a little childish. But because, it's really, really, important to me, that my family meet him, and he meet my family. It's important to me that the members who already like him, continue to like him. And I think by not going, they'll see it as a temper tantrum, and decide, maybe he's not as good a person as they thought. He is, he's a great man, really. But he's obviously not seeing things clearly right now. Plus, now what? I go alone, to be completely bored and lonely, and think about and worry about him the whole week!

I don't want to force him into going, and I probably could. Well, not force him... God knows, I can't -make- him do anything! But I probably could bitch and whine and cry and guilt him into going. But I don't want it to be that way. I want him to go, because it's important to me. I mean, Caroline is married to Mike, and Mike and dad disagree on a lot of things to, maybe not as strongly as Tom and dad, but still, they disagree, dad's just hard to get a long with sometimes. but he still does all sorts of things with my father, because he has too for Caroline, to make things simple, to keep the peace. He doesn't like it, but he does it cause he loves her. Sacrifice. It's important. Am I being dumb? Help.

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If you're angry at a loved one, hug that person. And mean it.
You may not want to hug - which is all the more reason to do so.
It's hard to stay angry when someone shows they love you,
and that's precisely what happens when we hug each other.
~Walter Anderson

When a man sends you an impudent letter,
sit right down and give it back to him with interest ten times compounded,
and then throw both letters in the wastebasket.
~Elbert Hubbard
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